own your feeling and thoughts
how we interpret others' communication.
Although how we interpret what others say may lead us to feel certain ways, others do not directly cause our responses.
Telling others that they make you feel some way is likely to arouse defensiveness,
which doesn't facilitate healthy interpersonal relationships.
Although other can't directly cause our feeling,
they can behave in ways that affect and sometimes harm us.
To take responsibility for your own feeling,
rely on I-language rather you-language.
Ex. you hurt---I feel hurt when you ignore what I say.
You’re really domineering---when you shout, I feel dominated.